What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?

What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?

Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage. Sex is the completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a God-given gift.
PRE-MARITAL SEX

Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex, it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient, it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!
IDENTIFYING TRUE LOVE
We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in love.” The three keys to that statement are:

We have to…
look at the Word of God
be completely honest with ourselves
understand the level of commitment that comes with true love

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What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?

What is true love and how do you know when you have found it?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the qualities that God looks at and neither should we.
But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to action—true love.
Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and in truth.

Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8), even when he didn't feel like it .

এই হাত ছুঁয়েছে নীরার মুখ

এই হাত ছুঁয়েছে নীরার মুখ
আমি কি এ হাতে কোনো পাপ করতে পারি ?
শেষ বিকেলের সেই ঝুল বারান্দায়
তার মুখে পড়েছিল দুর্দান্ত সাহসী এক আলো
যেন এক টেলিগ্রাম, মুহূর্তে উন্মুক্ত করে

নীরার সুষমা
চোখে ও ভুরুতে মেশা হাসি, নাকি অভ্রবিন্দু ?
তখন সে যুবতীকে খুকি বলে ডাকতে ইচ্ছে হয়--
আমি ডান হাত তুলি, পুরুষ পাঞ্জার দিকে
মনে মনে বলি,
যোগ্য হও, যোগ্য হয়ে ওঠো--
ছুঁয়ে দিই নীরার চিবুক
এই হাত ছুঁয়েছে নীরার মুখ
আমি কি এ হাতে আর কোনোদিন
পাপ করতে পারি ?

এই ওষ্ঠ বলেছে নীরাকে , ভালোবাসি--
এই ওষ্ঠে আর কোনো মিথ্যে কি মানায় ?
সিঁড়ি দিয়ে নামতে নামতে মনে পড়ে ভীষণ জরুরী
কথাটাই বলা হয়নি
লঘু মরালীর মতো নারীটিকে নিয়ে যাবে বিদেশী বাতাস
আকস্মিক ভূমিকম্পে ভেঙ্গে যাবে সবগুলো সিঁড়ি
থমকে দাঁড়িয়ে আমি নীরার চোখের দিকে....
ভালোবাসা এক তীব্র অঙ্গীকার, যেন মায়াপাশ
সত্যবদ্ধ অভিমান--চোখ জ্বালা করে ওঠে,
সিঁড়িতে দাঁড়িয়ে
এই ওষ্ঠ বলেছে নীরাকে, ভালোবাসি--
এই ওষ্ঠে আর কোন মিথ্যে কি মানায় ?

 

Love

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. The word love is both a verb and a noun. Love is not a single feeling but an emotion built from two or more feelings. Anything vital to us creates more than one feeling, and we also have feelings about our feelings (and thoughts about our feelings). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.

As an abstract concept, love usually refers to a deep, ineffable feeling of tenderly caring for another person. Even this limited conception of love, however, encompasses a wealth of different feelings, from the passionate desire and intimacy of romantic love to the nonsexual emotional closeness of familial and platonic loveto the profound oneness or devotion of religious love. Love in its various forms acts as a major facilitator of interpersonal relationships and, owing to its central psychological importance, is one of the most common themes in the creative arts.

Definitions

The English word "love" can have a variety of related but distinct meanings in different contexts. Often, other languages use multiple words to express some of the different concepts that English relies mainly on "love" to encapsulate; one example is the plurality of Greek words for "love." Cultural differences in conceptualizing love thus make it doubly difficult to establish any universal definition.

Although the nature or essence of love is a subject of frequent debate, different aspects of the word can be clarified by determining what isn't love. As a general expression of positive sentiment (a stronger form of like), love is commonly contrasted with hate (or neutral apathy); as a less sexual and more emotionally intimate form of romantic attachment, love is commonly contrasted with lust; and as an interpersonal relationship with romantic overtones, love is commonly contrasted with friendship, although other definitions of the word love may be applied to close friendships in certain contexts.

When discussed in the abstract, love usually refers to interpersonal love, an experience felt by a person for another person. Love often involves caring for or identifying with a person or thing, including oneself (cf. narcissism).

In addition to cross-cultural differences in understanding love, ideas about love have also changed greatly over time. Some historians date modern conceptions of romantic love to courtly Europe during or after the Middle Ages, although the prior existence of romantic attachments is attested by ancient love poetry.

Because of the complex and abstract nature of love, discourse on love is commonly reduced to a thought-terminating cliché, and there are a number of common proverbs regarding love, from Virgil's "Love conquers all" to The Beatles' "All you need is love." Bertrand Russell describes love as a condition of "absolute value," as opposed to relative value. Theologian Thomas Jay Oord said that to love is to "act intentionally, in sympathetic response to others, to promote overall well-being."

True Love

True Love

The first time I saw her,
my heart turned on fire.
My body was filled,
with lust and desire.
Her eyes pierced my soul,
I fell to the ground.
In my mind I knew,
that my love was bound.
Her eyes was so sparkling,
her touch so divine.
From that moment on
I wished she was mine.

When I’m all alone,
out in the night.
She comes along,
and finds the light.
When I am sad,
and life’s no fun.
She will be there
to be my sun.
In every moment,
of my life.
I always wish,
she was my wife.

After this is said,
you maybe know.
That this special lady,
is my true love.